Mood-O-Meter To Manage Toddler Tantrums

Mood-O-Meter To Manage Toddler Tantrums
Most toddler tantrums happen when they are unable to say what they want. It frustrates them when they try to tell you something and you don't get it so they freak out. And then you get frustrated too and they can feel it so the tantrum worsen. 

With limited vocabulary, I urge my toddler to use signs or point at the object she wants. I encourage her to always use words, even if she has but a few. When she cries, I would always ask her "Why are you crying?" even when she was still a baby. If gives her a reason to pause when she is crying, trying to think of the answer. I take advantage of that to divert her attention. Often, I voice out the answer for her. I may not always get it right but it helps train her in giving label to the things around her, even to her moods.

So what else do we do to help manage toddler tantrums?
Mood-O-Meter To Manage Toddler Tantrums
HAPPY
At almost two, Mila's learning had taken an exponential speed. She's saying at least 5 new words everyday (some of them only she understands), has her own songs and dance moves to show to family, and funny tricks too. Of those new things she's recently learning, I feel it's very important that she now knows how to give words to how she feels. She can tell you if she is sad, happy, excited, or hurt. It's a step to keep toddler tantrums at bay. 
Mood-O-Meter To Manage Toddler Tantrums
SURPRISED
Having a toddler know how to say what she feels avoids sudden outbursts. She can tell you instead of showing you. If she is sad or hurt, she can tell us. No need to cry. This lessens frustration which translates to less tantrums. Less stress for Momma too! More so, it also allows us parents to better teach about empathy. "What do you do when mommy is sad?" "Hug!" "Do you want mommy sad?" "No. Happy!"
Mood-O-Meter To Manage Toddler Tantrums
GOOFY
Now Mila also has faces to match her mood. We call it her Mood-O-Meter. We got it from one of the Hi-5 episodes she watches in the morning. I know that most would frown on parents letting their kids watch TV. I think it's a matter of balance. So long as you watch appropriate shows with your kids and be there to guide them, TV can be a helpful learning tool. Anyway, we were watching together and a few minutes after the segment about the Mood-O-Meter, Mila just said to me "Mom! Happy! Look!" Then she gave me the sweetest smile. I know what she was talking about so we started working on the rest. We now have notches in our Mood-O-Meter: Happy, Sad, Surprised, Goofy.
Mood-O-Meter To Manage Toddler Tantrums
SAD
The Mood-O-Meter now complements her vocabulary of emotions. The goal is just to give her the tool to express her feelings with words so she does not have to resort to screaming and crying. 
#milaOOTD: June 2015
Flower Crown: bought preloved from IG
Tutu Dress: bought from Caprichosa at the Babypalooza
Shoes: Circo
We're lucky because Mila is turning out to be such an easy baby. She will be two in a couple of months but there's not much sign of the terrible two's yet. I'll still keep an eye on it. But again, I am hoping that we don't go through the I-will-cry-until-you-get-me-what-I-want stage. We will work on adding more on her mood-o-meter to help manage toddler tantrum so she can just tell mom if she is mad, frustrated, or just plain crazy. I have my fingers crossed it will help us through the terrible twos.


15 comments:

  1. I love the mood-o-meter of Mila. She's very pretty kahit anong mood. :)


    I am one of those "anti TV" mums but I don't judge those who allow their kids to watch din. Actually, when Skye was small pa, I would allow her to watch TV. Baby TV is her all time favorite kaso I noticed that the people at home would make her watch TV ALL THE TIME!! Ang hirap i-balance if working mum kasi wala ako sa bahay. So we have a no TV rule na at home na lang until she's a bit older na. Anyway, Hi5 is super nice nga. Skye loves the singing and dancing dun.

    ReplyDelete
  2. This is cute! I never went through the terrible stages with my eldest daughter. She was really an angel and she cope up pretty well with changes. But on my second daughter who recently turned 1, I think it is a different story all together. LOL.

    ReplyDelete
  3. 'Most toddler tantrums happen when they are unable to say what they want. It frustrates them when they try to tell you something and you don't get it so they freak out. And then you get frustrated too and they can feel it so the tantrum worsen.''' I TOTALLY AGREE! My little Prince should have that mood-o-meter real soon!!!
    Btw, Mila is sooooooo cute. :)

    ReplyDelete
  4. I also let my daughter watch Hi-5 and other cartoons on TV. i think everything needs to be in moderation.

    Xoxo
    MrsMartinez

    ReplyDelete
  5. My toddler is turning 2 as well in october and hopefully we survive the terrible twos. I am quite nervous about it. He's so maarte na and would make lupasay when he didnt get what he wants. I am trying to teach my partner to deal with his crying properly so it wouln't be mistaken na inispoil naman. So far, we are doing okay.. we'll see when he reach two. =)

    ReplyDelete
  6. thekitchen goddessJune 20, 2015 at 12:19 AM

    My daughter's now in her teens and I really can't recall if she had tantrums ...

    ReplyDelete
  7. Seems like you are handling motherhood quite well. As per my own experience, the key to understanding our kids is to be sensitive to the signals they are sending even without speaking. But of course, it helps a lot if they will voice out their thoughts and feelings.

    ReplyDelete
  8. this is a great way of managing the "teribble two's" stage. great job :)

    ReplyDelete
  9. I am a lucky mama, my boys were never fuzzy growing up (well unless they are hungry or sleepy).

    ReplyDelete
  10. Kat Jorge-RodriguezJune 20, 2015 at 12:10 PM

    My daughter is already 1 year and 7 months old, and we're starting to experience that, specially when she's trying to tell me something and I don't get it, you're so right about that.

    ReplyDelete
  11. I super agree with you! I have a 2yo toddler and he's not yet talking, kahit one word sentences lang wala. Toddlers teach us to be patient. :)

    ReplyDelete
  12. The Mood-O-Meter sounds like a great idea. MY daughter never had a lot of tantrums but I'm getting ready for my next little one.

    ReplyDelete
  13. Great idea for a toddler! At 3, my son is undergoing a stage where the littlest things frustrate him. I get frustrated, too, especially when he doesn't voice his feelings out. So I urge him to speak and, taking a cue from Daniel Tiger, use his words.

    ReplyDelete
  14. Rackell VillarealJune 27, 2015 at 10:42 PM

    Si Rhian recently nadidiscover ko narin yung iba't ibang mood nya and I need LOT of patience. I agree with you na nakakatulong rin yung TV sa mga toddler, Hi-5 is Rhian's favorite, dun sya natutong mag dance.

    Btw, I miss Mila! Let's set na the playdate before akong manganak. :)

    ReplyDelete
  15. love your mood-o-meter! Mila is so so cute! Would love to have choi and mila meet one day!

    ReplyDelete

I'd appreciate any feedback. Please share your thoughts and leave a comment.